Why Society Shames Single Moms for Wanting Love (And Why That Serves the System)
The hidden agenda behind the shame—and why women must become matriarchs, not martyrs.
Nobody tells single dads to wait until their kids are grown before dating again.
But single moms?
We're shamed for wanting love.
We're told to “focus on the kids,” “stop being selfish,” and just “wait it out.”
And here’s what I believe:
That advice isn’t noble. It’s economic manipulation.
Let’s talk about the psychology, economics, and quiet social engineering behind this dangerous double standard—and what women can do to break free.
The Double Standard That’s Hardwired into Society
When a man is divorced with children, he’s seen as a hero for “trying again.”
If he remarries, it’s applauded. If he has more kids, it’s legacy.
When a woman does the same?
She’s reckless.
She’s selfish.
She’s told to “stay single for the sake of the children.”
This isn’t just a cultural script—it’s a control mechanism.
Follow the Money: Why This Exists
Here’s my theory—and I want you to sit with it:
Society benefits when single moms stay stuck.
Because when we:
Raise kids alone,
Don’t remarry,
Struggle with finances,
Juggle multiple jobs,
…we become part of a low-wage, overworked, overburdened labor force.
And the government, corporations, and oligarchs profit from that.
Meanwhile, men are encouraged to remarry, rebuild, and keep having children.
The more they reproduce and stabilize, the more “growth” society records.
But a single mom who dares to rise?
Who dares to love again?
Who dares to build wealth and independence?
She’s a threat to the system.
Religious Control + Economic Dependency = Silence
Much of this messaging is cloaked in “morality.”
Women are taught it’s righteous to suffer.
That good mothers don’t need love.
That it’s holy to wait.
But let’s be honest—this isn’t about holiness.
It’s about dependency.
Dependent women are easier to control.
They don’t organize. They don’t lead. They don’t challenge the status quo.
What’s the Solution?
I’ll tell you:
Become the matriarch.
Heal.
Remarry if you want.
Build your career.
Launch that business.
Teach your kids what self-respect looks like.
Model emotional stability, financial freedom, and partnership.
Stop playing small so the system can stay big.
Because your kids don’t need a martyr.
They need a model.
To Every Single Mom Reading This:
You are not broken.
The relationship was.
You are not selfish for wanting love.
You are wise for wanting stability.
And you are not done.
You’re just getting started.
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